Tuesday, September 15, 2009
THE BLAME GAME...
i simply adore this word "BLAME" ; its last two syllables sound 'me'
Olivia Judson is so right when she says she wants intelligent Aliens for us humans who can objectively tell humans as to what exactly is the problem with them. Humans definately can't assess themselves, however, i do firmly believe that everyone can heal self provided the self controls the mind & not the opposite.
i humbly present my case to you :
Any murder is tragic..no quarrels on that issue but to squarely blame the law & administration for the same is not only specious but also akin to the irresponsible thinking that some God or someone will come to rescue us from our sorrows & challenges while we continue to remain unconscious of the times we live in. This habit of not willing to take onus on oneself for ones own life events is precarious & spells doom for the self.In a way it depicts that one is under the firm grip of his/her own mind for whom blaming is a favourite pass time. Mind you this tendency of mind reigning control over the conscious self is not gender specific & not new by any stretch of imagination. We humans seldom learn from our mistakes...thanks to the blame game that so deeply prevails in our societies.
Look, i am not saying that the law & order is not a states responsibility...it is but an administration is made up of a group of elected or selected individuals who have come from the same society which has induldged so much in the blame game, from times immemorial,that it has completely forgot to take responsibility of the self, leave apart others.Is it not preposterous to even think that a politician, an administrator, a police offical,a journalist, a doctor, a judge, a lawyer, a teacher...or any professional for that matter will be more honest, more prudent, more ethical, more sensitive, more law abiding, more spiritual than the rest of the society...??? After all, this professional is born & brought up in the same selfish, cunning, corrupt, insensitive, law breaking, God fearing & not God loving society & so how can you expect him/her to be any different...??? Is not an individual true reflection of the society itself...??? Is it not, then, asking too much from these administrators to protect lives of each one of us, where ever & when ever we are...??? Is it not like asking them to be Gods in their fields & grant our wishes when even Gods fail in doing so...???
That we still get to see a few different individuals, going about their job with loads of passion, dedication & honesty is a welcome sign of relief but such individuals are exceptions & not norms of the society or the system,in fact, they are what they are, inspite of the society. In fact, society tries very hard to make them like itself, tortures them in their hay days for not being one with it, punishes them for being different till they succeed. Abhinav Bindra being the latest example.Thankfully, there is no dearth of such examples, be it Gandhi, Einstein, Kiran Bedi, Barkha Dutta, Dr Reddy, K G Balakrishnan, T N Sheshan, Aamir Khan, M S Dhoni....etc. etc. to name a few known personalities among a stream of many many unknown ones.No matter how big the quantity of such different individuals is, they are still very far & few when compared to the vast & roaring sea of society filled with blaming individuals.
Nobody invites death, even if it is natural, so it is childish to think that someone invites murder. Tell me, whom do you blame for un-natural deaths caused by AIDS, cancer, heart-attack, diabetes, malaria, sunamis, earthquakes, tornedos, snake bite etc.YES...i dare call them "un-natural". Just ask the one who is suffering from these diseases or whose loved ones have gone through such an ordeal & you will know the truth. A death is tragic...whether its natural or not..because it is death, all the same.We are all victims of death.
Alternately, we can also accept death as an un-detachable part of life & stop blaming others for it.With due regards,the dead are not blaming anyone. They lived their life the way they wanted to & must be at peace with themselves, possibly laughing to see us mortals so fearful about death, right now. Blaming can not free you from the fear of death, accepting it the way it is, can.If you can not live without blaming, then blame yourself...for being afraid...for being so greedy...for choosing life over death...for not being different from the society...for not living fully enough...
Blaming, albeit, if is a business then its altogether a different phenomenon.