Monday, October 11, 2010

THE INFIDELITY STORY..


Infidelity towards a person can never  happen on this planet earth.

   Do not be shocked to read the   
   statement..because it is a truth.

But then...truth is what shocks us..isn't it?
yup...most of the times it does so...

              Infidelity just happens in the mind.
Our mind tells us that we have been cheated by the other person who is now in love with someone else too.
The ego feels the hurt, not because anything substantial has changed between the two lovers, but because it feels disgusted to see that the love which he/she thought to be a sole propriety right of his/her till now, is been shared with someone else too.
It unnecessarily compares self with this third person and most of the times finds itself much better than this third entity and starts calling his/her lover as infidel, scoundrel, sex-maniac, or a cheat.
The third person also gets his/her due share of being called with derogatory names such as whore, gigolo, mistress or a home-breaker.

On very rare occasions, when the mind uncommonly yet unnecessarily accepts its inferiority in comparison to this third person, it sulks, gets depressed and tries to kill the self. 
It feels and believes that its numero uno [Number one] position has been threatened and that, he/she is dislodged from its imaginary position.
Suicidal tendencies, as also the criminal tendencies, are born out of such needless state of total despair and hopelessness.

Both the above states are indicative of the extreme positions taken by the mind and since we are attached so much to our minds and bodies that we cannot see ourselves as a separate entity altogether, we fail to feel ourselves in perfect harmony or union with our own true self. 
We are unable to remain detached with the mind-body incorporation, just as an observer is and fall prey to our own thought process. 
We know not that there is indeed a possibility of a blissful state where the mind and body is in perfect sync with each other as also with this third entity called the rational or prudent self. 
This self-observing witness then curbs the comparing and blaming tendencies of the mind, as also it controls the overbearing sexual desires to transform the mind-body instincts into love, care and compassion.

The habitual cheats, however need not feel overjoyed or solace to read the above and use it as a justification to satiate their insatiable hunger, thirst or lust. 
Know that love turns into lust the moment we desire anything out of or from it, save for the seeking of the self.

In much as the same way loyalty towards a person is also impossible.

Loyalty too is a figment of imagination of the mind, just as infidelity is. 
What is infidelity to one can be loyalty to the other…
It all depends on which part of the coin we are getting one with.
Seeing the whole coin seems to be prudent in matters of heart but our mind with its make-believe or hallucinatory powers does not readily allow the heart to over rule its decision.
The mind sticks to what it sees as truth, even when it is just a perspective, a paranoid fact or half-baked truth. 
We are bound by our own mind's decision to remain in that pathetic state of seeing only the half-truth.
No wonder then, that the other half of the truth is totally lost on us and apathy rules supreme.

Laws and rules and regulations of the land may favor the aggrieved party but are an utter failure when it comes to bringing back the lost happiness.

Life finds its own ways to over rule those laws.

It  openly makes a mockery of such stupid laws when with the turn of events the aggrieved is turned into the guilty and the oppressor is turned into an innocent. 
Moreover, if at all we pledge to adhere to those laws, they should be followed in their fullness and not just to suit our comfort.

If “cheating” is what we are opposed to then cheat we must not on any front of life…
be it bribing, evading taxes, downloading from unofficial websites or happily purchasing or taking on rent pirated DVDs/mp3s/Cd's/VCd's.

There ain't any need to forgive or forget either.

Forgiveness comes in only when we feel that we have been wronged or been taken for granted by someone. 
Also, there is no way one can forget if one has felt the hurt in the first place. 
We felt hurt because we genuinely believed that our rights have been masqueraded. 
How childish to blame someone for agonies that are born out of our own partisan beliefs?

Consensual love, or call it sex if it suits your blaming mind, is a thing between two consenting adults and third party interference is not only surpassing our own rights but in fact is poking our nose or is unsolicited indulgence in someone else’s life.

Marriage may give us legal authority to interfere and have a say on such issues but then such laws are made only for fools who believe that laws can stop or prevent people from cheating. 
Well, they would have been able to do so ages ago had there been any merits or strength of resolve in them to do so.

Polygamy is the nature of life or else it would have never created a polygamous world.
Your legal authorities should have stopped the Supremo, the Almighty Lord after S/He created a solitary rose, or this universe's first and foremost couple in the form of Adam & Eve.That way, you would not have been born to advocate about your virtual world of monogamy.
Tell me honestly,i am aware that your prejudiced mind will not allow you to be honest even with yourself but still i dare ask and challenge your candid soul to enlighten your selfish mind. 

HERE IT COMES:

Have you never ever dreamed about or fantasized about someone else's virtual or imaginative presence in your bed while making love with your legal spouse..??

Are we not off springs of a single couple to start with who are in fact copulating with their own brothers and sisters? That makes us incestuous too…isn't it?


How..??


Well..
The scientists in search of the start of  human life have found out in a large study that the grand grand grand...mother or nanny of all the human-beings on planet earth, some 10000 years ago, was a single lady - call her Eve. 
The scientists have traced the roots by taking out a small mass of skin from the jaws of a Japanese, an Indian, an American, an African, so on and so forth in a large sample study.
[Source of this study is an article published in Times of India newspaper  some 5-6 years ago. Article is probably written by an Indian astronomer, i believe. Search Google or TOI archive gallery to find it waiting for your suspecting mind, if you please... 

They studied the DNA of all the samples and found out that the common factor in each of our DNA leads us to the fact that we are indeed sons and daughters of a single couple.

They also found out that human life started from Africa and later on with the migration that took place because of the survival issues, we are now settled where we are.
The climatic conditions then brought about the genetic mutations and made us look the way we look now.

The mind though still remains in the same ruling or autocratic state of perpetual sleep.

These findings mean that genetically we are offspring of a single parent though our physical features may differ.

The findings also render man-made divisions of cast, color, creed, religion, nations, language etc etc as a big big big political hogwash knowingly hyped-up by so called political leaders, cunning saints, fanatic dictators etc. etc. etc. to list a few from an endless list of such closed-minded people.

It means we are all one..
My common sense tells me that we are all uniquely UNIQUE...
My inner voice tells me that may be it is because of this intolerable fact that; 

OUR UNIQUENESS IS SO UNCOMFORTABLY COMMON THAT IT SEEMS PRETTY ORDINARY TO ALL OF US AND HENCE, WE SPEND MOST OF THE TIME OF OUR LIFE TO APPEAR 'EXTRA-ORDINARY'. 
THIS,
NOT ONLY TO PROVE OUR WORTH IN OTHER'S EYES BUT ALSO TO BE THE MOST SUCCESSFUL PERSON ON PLANET EARTH.  







Sorry, i digressed but it was needed. 

So, back again to the topic of infidelity with the above understanding in our minds and we find that infidelity issues do not exist If we choose to look at the whole coin. 

If we do so without bias, we find that it is only humans who marry in this entire universe and that too to curb down universal polygamy. 

Well, the institution of marriage is successful only till such time till ignorance is bliss. 
Once the truth comes out in its naked form, all love that we so far professed for each other in all our sincerity walks out of the door as abruptly as it came.

Its good that God didn't give us the capabilities to read each other’s mind or else we would have divorced each other earlier than we could ever fathom.
Well, that is so because we all do fantasize and what is fantasizing [about making love with some other body-mind or soul mate other than our legal spouse] but a sort of cheating or disloyalty, albeit only in thoughts?

Mind you, 
thoughts are no less real than materialistic reality or else God would have not been able to create this world in just seven days; Parmaatma vedas say just said Tathaastu to create this universe; Allahtaala too just needed to say kun faaya kun to establish this world.

If making out of two consenting adults concerns us so much then it not only tells us but also exposes our lustful mind to others announcing publicly that our limited mindset is still very very very sexual oriented; that we are still to know the love that exists in sex and the sex that persists in love; that we are still very insecure about the act of love and are indeed yet profoundly dependent on the other to make us happy. 

Oh !! what a grave ignorance and what a stupid slavery..?

Where does love start and where does sex end? 

Does sex with legal partner transform into love after marriage and does love with illegal partner turns into sex before marriage...; a sin so to speak? 

Is marriage a legal license to fornicate or it is indeed a lovely way to live a happy life in trustful companionship? 

Remember, that which breaks is not a TRUST but our own  EXPECTATIONS or the monster called 'ever-expecting mind'. 

Can we not learn to take sex as normal as it is from the animal and plant kingdom around us? 

Can we stop being so skeptical, finicky and fearful about it? 

One just cannot enjoy sex if one takes it any more seriously than the kind of pleasurable fun it is.

Tell me, as to why do we seek loyalty in the first place? 

Was it not love that brought us to the altar of marriage? 

Does true love demand anything in return? 

If it does it is not love but a business relationship.

In telling our spouse that you should only love me and no one else, are we not trying to make a chained dog/bitch out of them? 

Have we been successful in doing so even after centuries of such trial?

May be, where we err is in curbing or suppressing down the natural & basic instincts which then turn into even more powerful in their suppression and take an even more ugly & menacing form. 
Thereby, it outbreaks as a disease which is beyond prevention, cure or healing..

May be we err in considering love as integral part of life but choose to label sex as something disgraceful, pathetic or disrespectful part of our holy life, when in truth it is love of the nature for itself that makes it create itself in such a fantastic way that all energy turns into matter and all matter disintegrates to transform itself into energy.
[Herein, i am indeed considering NATURE as GOD]


Tell me,
Oh you writer of the infidelity story, as to what is creation but reproduction of the self...?

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