yup...most of the times it does so...
Our mind tells us that we have been cheated by the other person who is now in love with someone else too.
The ego feels the hurt, not because anything substantial has changed between the two lovers, but because it feels disgusted to see that the love which he/she thought to be a sole propriety right of his/her till now, is been shared with someone else too.
It unnecessarily compares self with this third person and most of the times finds itself much better than this third entity and starts calling his/her lover as infidel, scoundrel, sex-maniac, or a cheat.
The third person also gets his/her due share of being called with derogatory names such as whore, gigolo, mistress or a home-breaker.
It feels and believes that its numero uno [Number one] position has been threatened and that, he/she is dislodged from its imaginary position.
Suicidal tendencies, as also the criminal tendencies, are born out of such needless state of total despair and hopelessness.
We are unable to remain detached with the mind-body incorporation, just as an observer is and fall prey to our own thought process.
We know not that there is indeed a possibility of a blissful state where the mind and body is in perfect sync with each other as also with this third entity called the rational or prudent self.
This self-observing witness then curbs the comparing and blaming tendencies of the mind, as also it controls the overbearing sexual desires to transform the mind-body instincts into love, care and compassion.
Know that love turns into lust the moment we desire anything out of or from it, save for the seeking of the self.
What is infidelity to one can be loyalty to the other…
It all depends on which part of the coin we are getting one with.
Seeing the whole coin seems to be prudent in matters of heart but our mind with its make-believe or hallucinatory powers does not readily allow the heart to over rule its decision.
The mind sticks to what it sees as truth, even when it is just a perspective, a paranoid fact or half-baked truth.
We are bound by our own mind's decision to remain in that pathetic state of seeing only the half-truth.
No wonder then, that the other half of the truth is totally lost on us and apathy rules supreme.
Life finds its own ways to over rule those laws.
It openly makes a mockery of such stupid laws when with the turn of events the aggrieved is turned into the guilty and the oppressor is turned into an innocent.
Moreover, if at all we pledge to adhere to those laws, they should be followed in their fullness and not just to suit our comfort.
be it bribing, evading taxes, downloading from unofficial websites or happily purchasing or taking on rent pirated DVDs/mp3s/Cd's/VCd's.
Forgiveness comes in only when we feel that we have been wronged or been taken for granted by someone.
Also, there is no way one can forget if one has felt the hurt in the first place.
We felt hurt because we genuinely believed that our rights have been masqueraded.
How childish to blame someone for agonies that are born out of our own partisan beliefs?
Well, they would have been able to do so ages ago had there been any merits or strength of resolve in them to do so.
Your legal authorities should have stopped the Supremo, the Almighty Lord after S/He created a solitary rose, or this universe's first and foremost couple in the form of Adam & Eve.That way, you would not have been born to advocate about your virtual world of monogamy.
Tell me honestly,i am aware that your prejudiced mind will not allow you to be honest even with yourself but still i dare ask and challenge your candid soul to enlighten your selfish mind.
HERE IT COMES:
Have you never ever dreamed about or fantasized about someone else's virtual or imaginative presence in your bed while making love with your legal spouse..??
Are we not off springs of a single couple to start with who are in fact copulating with their own brothers and sisters? That makes us incestuous too…isn't it?
The scientists in search of the start of human life have found out in a large study that the grand grand grand...mother or nanny of all the human-beings on planet earth, some 10000 years ago, was a single lady - call her Eve.
The scientists have traced the roots by taking out a small mass of skin from the jaws of a Japanese, an Indian, an American, an African, so on and so forth in a large sample study.
[Source of this study is an article published in Times of India newspaper some 5-6 years ago. Article is probably written by an Indian astronomer, i believe. Search Google or TOI archive gallery to find it waiting for your suspecting mind, if you please...]
They studied the DNA of all the samples and found out that the common factor in each of our DNA leads us to the fact that we are indeed sons and daughters of a single couple.
They also found out that human life started from Africa and later on with the migration that took place because of the survival issues, we are now settled where we are.
The climatic conditions then brought about the genetic mutations and made us look the way we look now.
The mind though still remains in the same ruling or autocratic state of perpetual sleep.
These findings mean that genetically we are offspring of a single parent though our physical features may differ.
The findings also render man-made divisions of cast, color, creed, religion, nations, language etc etc as a big big big political hogwash knowingly hyped-up by so called political leaders, cunning saints, fanatic dictators etc. etc. etc. to list a few from an endless list of such closed-minded people.
It means we are all one..
My common sense tells me that we are all uniquely UNIQUE...
My inner voice tells me that may be it is because of this intolerable fact that;
OUR UNIQUENESS IS SO UNCOMFORTABLY COMMON THAT IT SEEMS PRETTY ORDINARY TO ALL OF US AND HENCE, WE SPEND MOST OF THE TIME OF OUR LIFE TO APPEAR 'EXTRA-ORDINARY'.
NOT ONLY TO PROVE OUR WORTH IN OTHER'S EYES BUT ALSO TO BE THE MOST SUCCESSFUL PERSON ON PLANET EARTH.
Sorry, i digressed but it was needed.
So, back again to the topic of infidelity with the above understanding in our minds and we find that infidelity issues do not exist If we choose to look at the whole coin.
If we do so without bias, we find that it is only humans who marry in this entire universe and that too to curb down universal polygamy.
Well, the institution of marriage is successful only till such time till ignorance is bliss.
Once the truth comes out in its naked form, all love that we so far professed for each other in all our sincerity walks out of the door as abruptly as it came.
Well, that is so because we all do fantasize and what is fantasizing [about making love with some other body-mind or soul mate other than our legal spouse] but a sort of cheating or disloyalty, albeit only in thoughts?
thoughts are no less real than materialistic reality or else God would have not been able to create this world in just seven days; Parmaatma vedas say just said Tathaastu to create this universe; Allahtaala too just needed to say kun faaya kun to establish this world.
Oh !! what a grave ignorance and what a stupid slavery..?
Does sex with legal partner transform into love after marriage and does love with illegal partner turns into sex before marriage...; a sin so to speak?
Is marriage a legal license to fornicate or it is indeed a lovely way to live a happy life in trustful companionship?
Remember, that which breaks is not a TRUST but our own EXPECTATIONS or the monster called 'ever-expecting mind'.
Can we not learn to take sex as normal as it is from the animal and plant kingdom around us?
Can we stop being so skeptical, finicky and fearful about it?
One just cannot enjoy sex if one takes it any more seriously than the kind of pleasurable fun it is.
Was it not love that brought us to the altar of marriage?
Does true love demand anything in return?
If it does it is not love but a business relationship.
In telling our spouse that you should only love me and no one else, are we not trying to make a chained dog/bitch out of them?
Have we been successful in doing so even after centuries of such trial?
Thereby, it outbreaks as a disease which is beyond prevention, cure or healing..
[Herein, i am indeed considering NATURE as GOD]
Oh you writer of the infidelity story, as to what is creation but reproduction of the self...?